carylqueen:

Family.

carylqueen:

Family.

alex37k said: What's your definition of racism? If it defers from the Merriam-Webster definition, what gives you that right? If racism doesn't apply to whites, what is it called when whites are persecuted because of their skin colour?

thisiswhiteprivilege:

Imagination.

WisCon’s Harassment Decision

lauren-m-jankowski:

Earlier today, WisCon posted its decision on Frenkel on their blog (found here).  Basically, he is banned for four years or until he demonstrates a change in behavior and attitude.  The man who tossed a book at me at my first ever con, berated me for five minutes straight, and just generally treated me like a non-human will eventually be allowed to return.  A man with a 20+ year history of berating, bullying, and harassing women is going to be allowed to a feminist convention.  If that’s not allowing the wolf in the henhouse, I don’t know what is.

Next year will be my last WisCon.  My last chance to hang out with the friends who I only see at that convention.  My last opportunity to enjoy what should always be a safe space.  To say I’m devastated is an understatement.  I love WisCon.  I love the people I meet there.  I love learning new things and exploring viewpoints I wouldn’t otherwise be exposed to.  I like interacting with potential readers and people who enjoy the same genres that I love.

As a new writer, an indie author, I have little to know power or sway in the genre world.  I’m a quieter individual, very much an introvert.  I was unaware of Frenkel and his reputation.  If it hadn’t been for people on Twitter and Tumblr stumbling across the panicky blog I wrote during this year’s WisCon, no one would have known what had happened to me last year.  The only reason why WisCon “found” my report was because of the outcry of the community (which I will always be grateful for).  I’ve found so many allies and it’s been a relief to not be alone during this ordeal.

Aside from devastation, I’m pissed off.  I’m angry that I live in an era where I have to decide between seeing good friends and my own personal safety.  That is unfair.  I never, NEVER, thought I’d see the day where I was unsafe in a feminist space.  As a woman in genre, you know you’re going to experience harassment.  But a feminist speculative fiction convention should be better.

I’m angry that I’ve lost potential revenue.  Because I’m still a new author, I don’t have travel funds so my con choices are extremely limited.  I can’t just go to another con.  As I mentioned earlier, I also go to the con to see friends who I wouldn’t otherwise see.  Being a writer is a lonely, lonely job and there aren’t many opportunities to go out, socialize, and just have a good time.  Losing this con is one less opportunity I have to enjoy the company of others.

I feel like I’m the one being punished for being a new author at this con, for being a woman, a new face.  I know that’s ridiculous, but that seems to be the running theme of this whole goddamn situation.

Wiscon was my first con, my first real con, back when I was a tender young writer just dipping my toes into being with other writers and people who read the kinds of things I write. It was also my first con on panels, and while I’d lectured as a TA in my graduate program and wasn’t especially terrified of that in particular, the entire prospect was very anxiety-making in a lot of ways. New people, new space with strange customs and rituals, new history, new discussions. For someone like me, intensely afraid of change and new things, it was a lot to face down.

And it was wonderful. For me, it was one of those experiences where you feel like you’ve come home to a place you simply forgot. People were so warm, so welcoming, panels were so awesome. I made friends, I met amazing writers, I laughed, I danced, and at the end of a very hard year in a very rough PhD program, I felt revived.

Since then – for the last three years, with one exception where I had to miss it – Wiscon has been My Con. It’s been the con I look forward to, the con that keeps me going through the slog that is the end of a spring college semester (I teach, or I did, and it’s a slog for us too). This past May, it was a con where I reached some important decisions and where I discovered some difficult things about myself. It was hard, but it was emotionally fulfilling in ways your regular con probably would not be.

So I can’t tell you how much it saddens me to say that unless there’s a massive, massive about-face on the part of the con, I will not be back next year.

There isn’t much I can say about the Jim Frenkel situation that hasn’t already been said by others, and much better than I could. I’m also not one of the people he’s hurt directly, and who have been correspondingly so poignantly hurt by the con’s decision in this matter. But I’ve been watching things unfold, and I’ve been watching people I care about in pain, and I cannot, in good conscience, support Wiscon with my money and my presence after this. Nor do I think I could enjoy myself if I went. As far as I’m concerned, this is a con that sets a toxic, dangerous narrative of redemption above the safety of its attendees, that provides a serial harasser with more recourse in terms of a process of appeal than it provides the people he has harassed.

I am not here for that. I’m here for Elise Matthesen and Lauren Jankowski. That’s why, come next May, I won’t be there.

I haven’t set this decision in stone. If the about-face I mentioned above happens, I’m willing to reconsider. I want to be able to reconsider. But here’s the thing: Even if Wiscon pulls a Readercon (why the hell should it have to, when Readercon trod this ground ahead of them? were they paying any attention at all?) the damage is still done. An enormous amount of goodwill has been lost. A lot of people appear to no longer feel that Wiscon is trustworthy where their safety is concerned. Something that people loved has been ruined in a profound way, and a quick revision of a policy decision is not going to fix that.

(Seriously, what the fuck were you guys thinking?)

As Saira Ali said on Twitter, “Harassment, the gift that keeps on giving”.

So yeah. Unless something major changes, I will most likely be at Balticon that weekend. It’s a relatively local con that a lot of local writer friends attend, and I’ve been wanting to go for a while.

I just didn’t want to go because of something like this.

"I gave a speech on bisexual health at a medical association conference a few years ago. One of the attendees, who is a mental health professional — he’s a therapist — wasn’t at my talk, but when he heard the topic of my speech, he told me, "Oh, when I have clients who say they’re bi, I really question it. I really make them talk it through, and we examine it very closely."

I said, "What if they say they’re gay?" He was gay, by the way.

He said, "Oh, in that case, we just talk about whatever they came to me for.""

Amy Andre in Nothing About Us Without Us from her speech on problems of Physical Health in the Bisexual Community, at a bisexual roundtable on 23 September 2013 in Washington DC USA (via bialogue-group)

It’s this shit right here that gets me so fucking mad at people who trivialise biphobia and monosexism by saying shit like “oh the worst you get is people thinking you are confused and greedy”, as if those stereotypes has no real consequences for bisexuals.

This is a fucking therapist, a man in charge of helping people overcome mental health issues and trauma, admitting freely that he and his colleagues treat bisexuality as if it is a mental health problem and a symptom of mental disturbance to be treated and cured.

He is telling a bi woman that he does treat gay people the same way and I’m pretty sure that he doesn’t treat straight folks that way, he is singling out bisexuals because he thinks there is something wrong with us identifying that way, because we are, in his mind, confused.

It makes me sick to think that he is making clients doubt and dissect their own sexuality, blamed their bisexuality for their mental state, told them that bisexuality was a symptom or something to take centre-stage over everything because he thinks it’s not as natural or mentally healthy as monosexuality.

This attitude towards bisexuality is endemic to the medical health industry, especially mental health, which is already a problematic field given how much stigma is attached to mental illness.

So many times I hear bisexuals express their anger at being told by qualified therapists and doctors that they were confused, greedy and/or unstable and therefore had to jump through pointless hoops, longer and more invasive therapy sessions, or even worse, threatened with having treatment withheld or taken in a direction completely different from monosexuals because “it’s all in their heads” or “just doing it for attention”. All because the person in charge takes Freud a little too seriously and/or believes all the shitty stereotypes that seem ever so trivial and not worth combatting to biphobia-deniers.

And people wonder why bisexuals don’t come out to health professionals? They wonder why we don’t come out at all? They wonder why bisexuals have a rate of suicide and poor health way above straight and gay people?

Don’t ever tell me that is trivial. Bisexuals die because of these stereotypes, they are killed by these so-called mental health professionals telling them that they need to be cured by denying themselves and are erased after death by monosexism. Fuck everyone who doesn’t think that’s worth caring about. (via a-little-bi-furious)

Small reminder of WHY we need out informed Bisexual People at ALL LGBT Health Conferences

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kimkardashiangameproblems:

Waiting for energy

kimkardashiangameproblems:

Waiting for energy

Have you ever been alone on this train? When was the last time you were alone? You can’t remember, can you? So please do take your time.

(Source: gilbertnorrell, via gilbertnorrell)

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sandykidd:

Sabrina Vourvoulias, Sarah Pinsker, Michael Janairo, Sunny Moraine, Lisa Bolekaja, Claire Humphrey, and Sofia Samatar at the Long Hidden reading.

sandykidd:

Sabrina Vourvoulias, Sarah Pinsker, Michael Janairo, Sunny Moraine, Lisa Bolekaja, Claire Humphrey, and Sofia Samatar at the Long Hidden reading.

kimkardashiangameproblems:

About Simon.
kimkardashiangameproblems:

When they need me to show up in the office right away, and then I have to wait 8 hours for the task to be avaliable

kimkardashiangameproblems:

When they need me to show up in the office right away, and then I have to wait 8 hours for the task to be avaliable

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rebeccacumberland:

when you’ve just finished an 8 hr shoot and Simons calls you about some appearance 

rebeccacumberland:

when you’ve just finished an 8 hr shoot and Simons calls you about some appearance 

(via elaurad)

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be-seeing-you-sweetling:


You see, they believed that the sky could fall on their heads and they truly, truly believed that offering blood was the only way of stopping this from happening.
Perhaps, my darling. Perhaps they were mistaken altogether. Or perhaps their tragedy was that they simply could not spill blood enough to prevent the sky from falling in upon them. 

from Amnesia: A Machine For Pigs 

be-seeing-you-sweetling:

You see, they believed that the sky could fall on their heads and they truly, truly believed that offering blood was the only way of stopping this from happening.

Perhaps, my darling. Perhaps they were mistaken altogether. Or perhaps their tragedy was that they simply could not spill blood enough to prevent the sky from falling in upon them. 

from Amnesia: A Machine For Pigs 

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